We've all been there, your husband comes up in the conversation and at least one of these comments are bound to be said. Sometimes it is hard to not beat your head against a wall when any of these come up, but we try to smile and nod and take it with a grain of salt, when really we are day dreaming ways to tell them what you really think. All I have to say to any of you who make these kind of comments...We do it so you don't have to.
Here are some of the ones I've heard most...
1) You did this to yourself. I did what? Fell in love and got married? Yes, in fact, I did and it just so happens he's an airman. I chose him, not his job, but I love him and support him and would do anything in the world for him. That doesn't mean I knew what all it entailed or that I don't still struggle or get frustrated with the weekly changes the Air Force makes.
2) I could never be a military wife. This is meant to be a compliment, but it's not like I'm Super Woman or anything because I'm a military wife. If your husband/boyfriend decided to join the military you'd do the same exact thing. Step up and do it. It's not easy, but it's a way of life. My way of life. If your man was the one, I guarantee you would be able to do it.
3) I haven't seen my boyfriend in three days, I miss him so much. Shut up. Just shut up right now. To me, this one is the most annoying. I go months and months at a time without seeing my husband and I've gone weeks without talking to him. I don't want to hear how much you miss him when you talk to him everyday and see him every week. Yes, missing someone is the same for everyone, but you just don't realize how we would give anything to see our husbands once every three days.
4)Your life must be just like Army Wives! No. I watched one episode and never turned another one on. My life is nothing like Army Wives and I'll take it as an insult that you think it is. That show is full of drama, cliches, and false assumptions.
5) I know exactly what you're going through, my husband has gone on a week long business trip. Much like #3, shut up. Your husband is put up in a foo-foo hotel for a week in San Diego and you get to talk to him every day. My husband is in a war zone for six months where I get to sit and worry if he is even alive or safe because I can't talk to him for days, sometimes weeks, at a time.
6) He'll be home before you know it. No, I don't think so. I spend all day worrying, waiting, and dealing with military things that sometimes I have no idea about, just wishing he was home so he could deal with it. He is on my mind all day, every day. You know that thing where if you can keep your mind off it, it'll go faster? That's never the case when he is gone.
7) Do you worry about him dying? YES! I worry about it a lot more often than I should, but since it was off my mind for once, thank you for bringing it back up again. I really didn't enjoy my two hours of peaceful thinking.
8) Isn't it hard to be a military wife? Isn't it hard to be a civilian wife? You adjust and it becomes a new normal. My normal just has a lot cooler benefits than yours, to be honest.
9) At least you can get the military discount. Yes, while the military discount is nice, it's kind of shallow to say that, being a military wife is a lot more than just saving 15% at Banana Republic.
10) I hope he is being faithful. Sometimes people just make you #facepalm. This one doesn't even deserve a response.
11) Doesn't it get boring just sitting around all day? What makes you think I sit around all day? I have my own business, I work part time, I make sure my house is taken care of, go out with friends, work out, I volunteer, and I'm finishing my bachelors. I hardly ever just "sit around".
12) I would love to have your benefits. You don't even have to work! Again, what makes you assume that I don't work? Yes, I'm very thankful for the benefits we have been blessed with and they are wonderful, but I'm perfectly capable of having a job, just because it isn't as cushy as your job, that doesn't mean anything. I move every two years, and I'm finishing school. Again, I don't have to work if I don't want to. I do it for me and once I finish my bachelors, I will be able to have a cushy job like you, except in the comfort of my own home.
13) Do you ever have the urge to cheat? He'd never know. How dare you even suggest cheating on my husband. If sex is that important to you in a marriage, maybe you should rethink your marriage. Again, how dare you. I love my husband SO much and he is the best anyone could ever get. We find ways to get creative and if it comes down to it, I can take care of myself.
14) At least it's only six months. Only six months? Have you been away from your husband for "only six months"? I doubt it. My husband has been gone for the past nine months and let me tell you, it feels like nine years. I know with this one they are trying to help and empathize, but it's just annoying to hear.
15) Do you resent your husband because you can't live a normal life? Excuse me? I do live a normal life, just not your kind of normal life. I happen to LOVE the military lifestyle. We have been blessed with so many opportunities that we never would have if he didn't join. This is my normal and I love it so much. I couldn't have asked for anything better, except maybe finally bringing my husband home, that would make it better.
16) Has he killed anyone? What kind of answer are you looking for with this question? Do you really want me to answer that? Let's just say he is doing his job and keeping you safe and free. Respect it and appreciate it because not many could do what he does.
Did I miss any?? What are some things that people say to you that get under your skin? Let me know, I'd love to hear them!
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